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Keep it Constant
February 27 - 2007

Most women reach orgasms from repetitive and continuous stimulation, as opposed to hard or varying pressure. So treat her moans and sighs as signals for continuing at the same pace, not as requests to go harder or faster. On average, a woman can take anywhere from 3 to 30 minutes to reach orgasm from oral stimulation, so be patient. If your tongue gets tired, take a break and use your finger or penis to keep her arousal level from dropping. When she starts to come, keep whatever technique you are using going at the same pace, and don't stop until she tells you to! Don't feel too disappointed, though, if she doesn't reach climax, as she will have enjoyed it anyway. Unlike male orgasms, female orgasms are more elusive; and most women understand that and usually do not blame the man for failing to produce one. They are always grateful that he has tried.

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Dr. Z

Tasty Treats
February 20 - 2007

A lot of couples like to add their favorite flavors to the pleasure of oral sex, using everything from chocolate to spicy condiments. Using a menthol cough drop in the mouth while sucking on the clit is especially arousing, as it imparts a bite of coolness to the suction and can produce a tingling sensation. Others use ice in the mouth to produce an even colder sensation, or hot pepper sauce on the lips to add some burning sensation to the fire in your lapping. An even bigger smorgasbord of flavors is available to make oral pleasuring tasty, with honey, various fruit syrups, whipped cream, and chocolate being the most popular. Just be sure to keep the sugary concoctions and the ice on the outside of the vulva and the clitoris, and not let them get inside the vagina itself where they may cause yeast infections or damage delicate tissues.

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Dr. Z

Deep Throat
February 13 - 2007

With the movie "Deep Throat" being in the spotlight again, it is only appropriate to mention the art of "deep throating." According to Linda Lovelace, the most comfortable way to achieve a deep penetration is if your throat is straight. The best position is with the receiver lying on his back with the giver lying on her stomach along side. Make sure there is sufficient lubrication - an erect penis will slide much easier along the tongue and into the throat if it is well lubricated. Once you're in position, slightly tilt your head back and extend the tip of your tongue just past your bottom lip. Flatten the back of your tongue just as you would if a doctor were using a tongue depressor to look in your throat. Contrary to popular belief, do not try relaxing your throat muscles while performing deep throat; instead, force the back of your tongue down to create a larger opening for the penis to enter. Some who mastered the art of deep throating can also perform so-called "throat massage" by making swallowing motions while the penis is in the throat. The recipient's pleasure can be intensified by licking his testicles in the same time. You can also let you partner ejaculate with the entire length of his penis in your throat This way you will avoid the taste of the ejaculate because the head of his penis will be past the taste buds on the back of your tongue.

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Dr. Z

Danger and sex
February 6 - 2007

Our brain can be fooled in mistaking danger-induced anxiety for a sign of sexual interest and excitement. Psychological studies have shown that people put in life-threatening situations, such as those meeting on a shaking bridge, were more likely to find each other sexually desirable than those who met on a steady ground. Thus, by manipulating our brain to experience a little anxiety during sexual activity we can enhance our sex life when it becomes too predictable or stale. This can be done in a wide variety of ways from joining the mile high club to adding elements of voyeurism, exhibitionism or BDSM to your sex play.

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Dr. Z

It's Bigger Than You Think
January 30 - 2007

Many men are concerned with the size of their penis, both in terms of whether it measures up to those of other males and whether it is capable of satisfying a woman. Penile size is to men what breast size is to women, i.e., a part of the anatomy that has an effect on self-esteem which is disproportionate to its real importance as far as sex is concerned. This anxiety may become intensified by the visual effect called foreshortening. Every man sees his own penis in a foreshortened view because looking down on it makes the penis appear shorter than it is. That is why when he compares his penis to those of other men in a shower or changing room, his penis does not fare well in comparison. To get a better estimate of your penile size, look at yourself in the mirror instead of looking down. If you are overweight and have a belly, losing weight will make you appear more endowed (some claim that for every 35 pounds you gain, your stomach engulfs an extra inch of your penis). Shaving the genital area will also make your penis stand out and look larger.

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Dr. Z

Creative Use of the Feet and Toes
January 23 - 2007

Some men enjoy receiving "foot jobs;" that is, having their penises rubbed and stimulated to orgasm by a pair of female feet. It takes some dexterity to be able to maintain both feet in tight contact with the penis while moving them back and forth; and plenty of lube should be applied to the penis first to reduce friction. Another common sexual use of the feet is the "toe job," where a man uses his big toe to stimulate a woman's nipple or clitoris or even to insert in her vagina. Needless to say, whenever you engage in foot play, you should first be sure that your feet are clean and that your toenails are trimmed and buffed to remove any sharp edges.

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Dr. Z

The Male Pelvic Exercise
January 16 - 2007

Men can benefit from exercising their pelvic muscles by gaining greater control over their erections and learning to delay ejaculation. The male pelvic muscle is felt to be around the base of the scrotum; and men can learn to contract this muscle in the same way as women learn, by practicing cutting off the flow of a stream of urine. Some men are able to achieve amazing control over their pelvic muscles, as demonstrated by the theatrical production "Puppetry of the Penis: the art of genital origami," in which two Australian men showcased their ability to do various genital gesticulations, such as completely withdrawing their penis into their pelvic cavity. But gaining control over this muscle is more than an impressive party trick, it allows a man to stop the flow of seminal fluid into the penis, delaying ejaculation and prolonging intercourse.

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Dr. Z

A Touch of Wax
January 9 - 2007

Blindfolds are often used on the submissive to prevent him or her from seeing what is coming next, as surprise is also adrenaline-producing and stimulating. For example, dropping goblets of candle wax on your blindfolded, bound partner is especially exciting as he or she cannot tell where the drops will fall next. Just be sure to test the heat of the wax on your hand first, to make sure it is not too hot, and remember that the higher the wax falls, the cooler it gets. Also, never drop wax on the face or directly on the genitals (but the areas around them are fair game).

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Dr. Z

Sensory Deprivation
January 2 - 2007

Sensory deprivation works on the premise that depriving us of one of our sensory inputs increases the sensitivity of the others. Blind people often develop increased tactile sense. In the movie "At First Sight," Mira Sorvino falls in love with a blind massage therapist whose supersensitive touch turns her on. Depriving one of the sense of sight is one of the best ways to increase tactile awareness and build up light anxiety and anticipation.

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Dr. Z

Kudos for the CAT
December 26 - 2004

To increase the chances of your woman reaching an orgasm, try "coital alignment technique" or CAT. This is sometimes described as "riding higher in the saddle," as it involves the man sliding his pelvis higher on the woman's body so that his pubic bone (which is the horizontal bone immediately above the penis) is brought into direct contact with her clitoris. In addition, the man should shorten his stroke, rocking forward and back rather than fully withdrawing and thrusting. Each forward and backward movement should be only far enough to rub her clitoris with his pubic bone.The obvious significance of this position is that it provides maximum clitoral stimulation for the woman and assists her in achieving orgasm.

Have a great time!
Dr. Z

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